When it comes to having sex, we’re are knowledgeable about it, right? Most of us have probably been in more than a few relationships and know all what needs to be done. Even if you haven’t been in a sexual relationship, you still don’t know about it. But, if there’s something that a lot harder to do in real life from what you see in porn, it’s a threesome. They look easy when the three people involved in the video have clear instructions about what they need to do and the sequence they need to do it in, however, it’s a lot more difficult to do in real life. That’s what we’re here to help with. In this article, we’re going to quickly go over exactly why someone would be interested in a threesome and continue with all the things a person would need to know about having one. So, without further ado, let’s get right into it.
Why Would Someone Be into Threesomes?
Well, the very first and obvious reason is for the fun of it. Sex is good with one person, why not add another person to the equation? That’s definitely an extremely dumbed-down explanation of the scenario. But, that’s the truth of it. 90% of the people are into threesomes just for the thrill of being in bed with more than one person simultaneously. It’s a pretty unique experience unlike any other.
The second category of people that are into threesomes are folks that want to introduce a third person into their relationship. Lots of couples sometimes hit a dry spot where their sex life no longer has the spark that it needs. Thus, they resort to the most extreme measure to find that spark again, finding a third to have a threesome with. Usually, people try to find people close to them. A gym partner, a colleague, an old friend; people that one person from the couple has a connection with. However, if you feel that this is too intrusive and too humiliating, escorts are also an option. Introducing an escort is the best ways to rekindle your sex life. We’ll elaborate throughout the rest of the article exactly why we think so. Let’s get to how to make threesomes happen.
Asking Your Partner
The first thing you probably need help with is how to pop the question. No, the question isn’t, “Will you marry me?”, the question is, “Do you want to have a threesome?” The thing is, you’re literally asking your other half to invite another person into your sexual relationship. Their first thought would be that you want to cheat, have cheated, will cheated or a variation of that statement, simply including cheating. So, be prepared to have a fight too, because that too could be a probability. The trick here is to proceed with caution.
Start off subtly. “I had a dream the other day. I have to say it turned me on really bad. It was about you and Emilia Clark… “. Start off with an actress, someone you could have never had a relationship with. If you say that you’ve been dreaming about having sex with the next-door neighbour, things could get ugly for you. So, mention a name which is way out of your league.
Now, wait for your girl to respond. She’ll either love the idea or absolutely hate it. You can go for subtle persuasion. But, don’t try to goad her into a threesome, that’s morally wrong and not to mention, destructive for your relationship.
Decide What Sort of Threesome You Want
So the next thing to decide on is what type of threesome do you want. Do you just wish to add a girl to the mix? Are you going to do two guys one girl? Are you going to mix it up and go for a third transgender? This is totally up to you and your partner, we highly recommend speaking to her to ensure that you both are on the same page.
Make Sure Everyone is Comfortable with One Another
The most common problem people have during threesomes is that they aren’t comfortable with one of the parties. This can have a huge toll on the quality of the sex. If you’re that person who’s uncomfortable, this means that you’ll only focus on the other individual. Ergo, you’ll just be having regular sex with one person sitting beside you naked, waiting to be involved.
It’s crucial that all parties involved know each other. A great way to avoid such a precarious situation would be to take everyone to a dinner or hang out before getting in bed together. You all need to have some sort of compatibility. Otherwise, the threesome is just going to absolutely suck for one person.
Talk about Boundaries
When it comes to threesomes, things can get wild really fast. The emotions are running wild, you’re turned on, your hands are everywhere, you lose track of time; and in such a scenario, its very easy to lose track of things you’re comfortable with and the things you aren’t. Talk to your partners beforehand about things you’re not comfortable doing. Like, if you aren’t comfortable doing anal, talk about that with your partners and explain your predicaments regarding anal.
Make Sure You and Your Partner Realize What They’re Doing
Introducing a third into your relationship is not easy. If you are introducing a female, be prepared for the idea that your other half will be doing things with her too. And, if you’re the female, be prepared to see your partner have PIV sex with some other girl. If the thought of this puts any sort of doubts in your mind, any sorts of conflicted feelings, don’t go through with it. Relationships can be ruined just because you feel that your partner paid more attention to the third instead of to you. So, ensure that you consciously and sub-consciously agree to the threesome. Otherwise, you’ll end up doing more harm to your relationship than you can handle.
Keep Everyone Included
It can get difficult at time and in certain positions especially, but you need to know what you’re doing and whether everyone is included. Because, let’s be honest, rejection hurts, and when you’re the person who’s left out in a threesome, its such a tremendous slap on the face. So, try your best to keep the third person included. Keep them in the action by kissing them every now and then, use your fingers, run your hand across their body. Remember, the threesome needs to be an actually threesome. If you’re just having fun with your partner, there’s no point. If you’re only into that third person, you’re just cheating in a way its not considered cheating.
Safety Rules
Having a third person included in the room calls for a certain number of safety protocols. First one is a safe word. During normal sex, it will only take one word for the other person to stop whatever they’re doing. But, if you’re in a threesome, even holding a sign that reads “stop” won’t be effective at times. So, set a safe word that the parties can use in case they need to stop.
Second one, using protection. It doesn’t matter when you’re just having sex with your partner. You two know each other and know all of your health issues and would know if an STD was one of them. Unfortunately, you two can’t be certain about the third person in the threesome. That’s why you should always use protection. Moreover, it would be a huge issue if the third person is a female and she ends up getting pregnant by any chance. We’ve talked about how threesomes have the potential to destroy lives, and honestly, getting the third gal pregnant won’t help at all.
Make Some Room
This is a small one, but it’s necessary. A threesome is different from regular sex. There’s a 95% chance that you three won’t be sticking to your bed. You’re probably going to be rolling around a lot and making full use of the entire room. That’s why we highly recommend making some space beforehand. Clear out some of the tables and the furniture to create room in the middle of the room. Remove and lamps or fragile objects from the open and put them somewhere else. You’re going to make a mess. Make sure there isn’t anything that could be damaged because of that mess.